Character traits make a whopping difference in your life. What do I mean by character traits? Simply put, character traits are the qualities that show you are a person of high moral values. They are the distinguishing marks that tell others that you have character.
Character traits do not make a whopping difference automatically, of course. None of us is born with these traits. They are not at all qualities of personality.
The 66 character traits work as 66 pillars to lift your life from low actions of moral behavior to the highest behavioral actions. Character traits form the basis of moral values training and character building – of authentic character education in the home, school, or social venue.
The table of 66 character traits below sets a challenge for you if you want the whopping difference. The challenge of memorizing all of the character traits looks daunting to many people – and maybe to you. Memorize all 66 character traits, and then you must learn and understand what each means. You can never assume you know, because much of what masquerades as character training is too weak to make any difference at all in your life, let alone a whopping difference. You must have character in action.
You may have learned that there are only six and not 66 pillars of character. We could make it easy if our challenge to memorize, learn, and understand stood at only six pillars, couldn’t we? However, nothing but a full 66 character traits provide the pillars we need for a strong and enduring character in action!
Parents Need that Whopping Difference
Character traits make a whopping difference in family life, and many have experienced that difference. Character traits make a radical change in children’s behavior. Training them in self-control alone can transfer shopping trips from nightmares into joyful outings with not a hint of a temper tantrum from even the youngest.
Parents, you know that character traits form the basis of quality family values training. You know the worth of every one of the 66 character traits. You want each of your children to grow up to be a person who exercises all of them on a consistent, daily basis. In an ideal world, the family values training you give your children, whether formally or informally, would start with love, progress to courage of convictions, and then tackle compassion, respect, responsibility, integrity, honesty, etc. – through the entire table of 66 character traits. In our less-than-ideal world, you still do your best to include every quality in your training.
Moral values stand, after all, among the best things you can give your children. Family values are far more important than electronic toys, cell phones, stylish clothing, or money. Family values define the whole system of beliefs that will guide your children in the home and throughout their lives as mature adults.
To teach family values is to raise a person who will make a positive contribution to society. Character traits can make a whopping difference in your children’s lives!
Educators Need that Whopping Difference
Most administrators and teachers know that character traits make a whopping difference. The 66 character traits form the basis of authentic character education, but many have taken the easy route and bought into a belief that character education needs to address only six character traits. It seems like an easier system to handle. Their busy curricula make it difficult to fit in even those six, so they look for character education lesson plans that require little time or effort. Since they must spread limited budgets over many areas, they look for character education materials that teach those paltry six character traits at little expenditure.
However, responsible educators who strive for excellence understand that it is vital to instill all 66 of the character traits to the greatest degree possible. They understand that all 66 of the character traits affect academic success or failure. Respect, attentiveness, consideration, and cooperation, for example, impinge on the value of class time. Responsibility, diligence, and determination affect homework assignments. Fairness, compassion, friendliness, love, and others weed out bullying and name-calling.
I think you will agree that every one of the 66 character traits in our table, incorporated into a strong program of putting character in action, has the potential to make a whopping difference in a school!
Counselors and Coaches Need that Whopping Difference
Those who counsel or coach others know that character traits form the basis for all character building. Whether you are counseling in a faith-based setting, giving input as a life coach, or working as a private practice counselor, you surely recognize the value of strong character in action.
Relationship coaching or counseling also involves character building. Whether you are talking about dating, marriage, employer/employee, or some other relationship, you know that your counselees need to build and exercise character if a relationship is to improve. You will teach them to exercise compassion (caring), getting into another person’s skin and feeling what that person is feeling. You will show them how to exercise integrity, refusing to be anything other than one consistent, honest being.
Above all, you’ll present love, the most important of the character traits. You’ll be sure the people you counsel understand what love (an action verb) truly means if you want your counseling to effect change. You’ll show counselees that love consists of always doing what is best for the person who is the object of that love. Of all the character traits, that has the greatest potential to make a whopping difference in a life!
Character traits make a whopping difference in every sphere of life, and those who want to make a difference must, themselves, model character consistently in everything they do and say. Take time to memorize the entire table of 66 character traits. Apply yourself to learning and understanding what each moral value means and how it must change a life. Then help others learn and apply the character traits.
Teach all of the character traits, exercise them all, and you will experience the whopping difference it will make.